Can Struggle Actually Make Kids Stronger?


Why Challenge Is the Key to Confidence, Character & Mental Strength


Dear Reader

We all want our children to be confident, capable, and resilient—but in a world obsessed with comfort and ease, how do we actually build those qualities?

In this week’s episode of The Parenting Wisdom Podcast, I sit down with the incredible Bansari Shah, MA and CPLC—educator, certified life coach, Director of Outreach at Acton Academy Essex, and mother of two—about just that.

This episode is inspired by the book The Obstacle Is the Way by Ryan Holiday, and together we explore how facing challenges isn’t a detour on the road to growth—it is the road.

🔍 Here’s what we explore in this empowering conversation:

  • How Acton Academy uses the Socratic method to raise independent thinkers
  • Why kids need space to struggle and solve problems on their own
  • The real roots of mental resilience—and why it’s often missing today
  • The power of action over rumination (yes, for parents too!)
  • How to recognize and reframe limiting thoughts in ourselves and our kids
  • What it looks like to model courage and persistence in daily life
  • How the Hero’s Journey can give kids meaning and motivation
  • Why we need to embrace imperfection—while still doing our best

🧭 This conversation is a beautiful reminder that parenting isn’t about smoothing the path for our children—it’s about equipping them to walk it with strength.

🎧 Listen now on your favorite podcast platform or YouTube

Yes!! I started a new YouTube channel!!

💡 Bonus Resource: Download a free guide to raising mentally strong kids: bit.ly/actonguide
📷 Follow Acton Academy Essex: @actonacademyessex

As always, thank you for being part of this growing community of conscious parents.
Let’s raise the kind of kids who don’t avoid challenge—but rise to meet it.

With warmth,
Efrat
Parenting Wisdom Podcast

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The Parenting Wisdom

Our educational system often falls short, focusing on subjects that lack relevance for our children's futures. This approach can breed a disdain for learning and lead them away from their passions, disconnecting them from their true paths. The Alternative Parenting podcast aims to address this gap by exploring the essential skills, tools, and traits necessary for our kids to thrive and find fulfillment in life. Join my weekly newsletter where I will inform you on new episodes of the podcast where we delve into how to empower our children to pursue their interests, dreams, and create lives rich with purpose and meaning.

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